INDUSTRY RELATIONSHIPS

Hello...

ZC NATION!

How are you?

I hope extremely well 🤍

I’m doing quite well myself.

Each day I’ve gotten better.

I mean…

Time has always been a healer & this time is no different.

I’m happy to have spent this time with family.

& I can't believe it’s about that time to head back to LA again soon.

Before I forget though…

A really big THANK YOU if you’ve reached out.

I didn’t know how much support I would need.

& how long of a way it would go.

So I’m really grateful.

Bc it was much needed.

But guys…

I have a really interesting topic to discuss with all of you today.

I’m so curious on your opinions.

Today I want to chat about the industry.

Real vs fake relationships in the industry.

& the morality of it all.

The Industry

When I say the industry I mean the entertainment industry.

I’ve been in it for 10 years now.

On a MUCH smaller scale than the A-listers of course but on a scale nonetheless.

I’ve had my fair share of being around many stars.

& Ive gotten to see, hear & be around A LOT.

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There’s SO much that goes on behind the scenes.

There’s also so much that’s required of you to maintain the status you have.

Bc there are so many watching you ALL the time.

& you’ve GOT to stay relevant.

Bc of this there can be a lot of unspoken rules.

These rules start to become more & more clear/apparent to you the longer you remain in the industry.

Some shocking.

Some not so shocking.

Climbing the Social Ladder

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It’s no secret that if you want to move higher in status within the industry…

You must begin to move with those doing “better” than you.

Those who are being spoken about the most.

Those who are respected.

Etc.

This is not the ONLY way but this is the fastest way.

Entering rooms & rubbing shoulders with those who are on the fast track to your intended destination will surely get you where you want to go faster.

BUT…

Where is that line?

When it comes to social climbing.

That line of “using” people vs. natural connections forming.

I’ve seen many not care at all if a genuine connection is formed.

& I have to admit when I am around said people I feel very uncomfortable.

But in the industry you are swarmed with them.

For me personally social climbing is not a problem so long as it is MUTUALLY beneficial.

So basically if both parties benefit from the relationship in different yet individually fulfilling ways.

Real vs Fake

So many Hollywood relationships are so fake.

They’re friends publicly for that picture at dinner.

But their real relationships aren’t really advertised.

I don’t like that.

But when I think deeply & from a more positive viewpoint I think…

Is that the way it needs to be?

Maybe in order to protect what’s real you must keep it private.

& advertise to the public what’s not so “real”.

Or what wouldn’t be missed if you lost it.

You know?

That’s certainly a way to think about it.

& the only way that would be fully understandable is if those real & private relationships were being strongly nurtured behind closed doors.

That would make sense.

Let me stop rambling & get to the meat of why I’m bringing this all up.

The reason I bring all of this up is because after winning LI I have had to really re examine my choices.

Decisions haven’t been as easy to make as they were pre LI.

Friendships

Before LI I went through a period of isolation.

I told my mum…

“Mum I feel God is isolating me.”

I felt so lonely.

But it was a period I strongly needed to go through.

I had let go of best friends I had for 10 years due to strong awakenings that those relationships were holding me back & it was time to move forward.

It was a painful period but I got much closer to myself during that time.

& so much closer to God.

I realized how much I was being distracted from my purpose by my friends & in a covenant with my friends rather than in a covenant with God!

That revelation was powerful!

Bc it shot me into a different dimension.

After this I became very keen on who I let into my circle.

I thought…

I’ve done the hard legwork.

I’ve removed friends I thought I’d be friends with forever to eliminate stagnation in my life.

I cannot let just anyone into my life again without an intensive spiritual screening.

You know?

So that’s how I’ve been moving since.

& it seems to be working for me.

I thought it would be so simple moving forward.

But now.

Having garnered a public image/life…

It’s a whole new ball game.

It’s a whole new ball game in the sense that, the intensive spiritual screening is still in tact however the waters get murky when it comes to building public friendships.

Before all of this I just kept to myself.

Focused on God, my family & my career.

These days it would be best for me to spend more time with people.

But not just people.

People in the public eye.

This is when it gets murky.

I always want to remain authentic & true.

I always want to keep it as real as possible regarding my relationships.

Platonic or not.

& I guess I’m learning & trying to figure out how I feel about keeping my image strong by promoting certain public friendships that don’t serve me behind closed doors vs. promoting certain friendships that do serve me & are honest despite public perception.

So I pray God holds my hand & continues to guide me in order for me to meet those who feel the same way about Him as I do & can provide a mutually beneficial friendship.

But all in all...

What are your thoughts?

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 Is it alright to keep a friendship secret because said friend is not admired in the public eye?

But promote friendships that aren’t your favourite just bc they are good for your public image?

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Does morality have space in business/the industry?

Cancel culture is so strong in todays day & age.

People cancel people who do really amazing things behind closed doors and worship/admire those whose private lives hold a lot of skeletons but publicly seem clean cut.

This reality will never not bother me.

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Do we prefer not knowing peoples skeletons so long as their public image is picture perfect?

Or do we prefer to know people for EXACTLY who they are no matter how ugly the skeletons?

I’m curious on your perspectives.

Bc a lot of our favourite celebs do a lot/ actually don't do a lot behind closed doors that we most likely wouldn’t rate about them if we found out.

For me I am realizing in this new space of being a public figure that I want to be fully honest about who I am and who I’m mates with no matter how much that lowers my public image or looses me clout/followers.

It’s not easy but at least I’m able to sleep with myself at night.

I’d rather adjust to not being so outwardly liked by everyone & nurturing true relationships with people who are honest about who they are or what they’ve done than vice versa.

My Past Relationship

This is a strong reason I ended my last relationship.

I started to get that clarifying feeling that it was resembling that which I didn't want.

& I didn't care what I had to lose to remain authentic.

We just have to remember…

Romans 8:28

“All things work together for those who love Him”

As a matter of fact this may seem a bit random but I was asked by a Confidential family member if I could elaborate on why my ex may have kept pushing the business narrative especially when she believed so much our relationship seemed so real!

After I responded to her, I thought...

There must be others of you wondering the same so I'm sharing the response I gave her with you guys too.

Not to keep dragging this on at all.

But for those of you who feel as she felt, I felt this would be good to share.

Especially as this is the space I feel most comfortable & candid when answering questions since you all genuinely care about me.

Anyway my loves…

I have a gift for you.

I was able to get approval for my episode of “Crime & Justice” to share the link exclusively with ZC NATION if you’re interested in watching.

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It is available on ShowMax, an app only available to African & some European countries.

So I had to pull some strings to get this of course but you can thank me later.

Hahaha.

I am shooting to release the link via next Mondays blog.

You may have to give your consent that you will not distribute the footage.

But yeah.

That’s it for this week guys.

Thanks for being here.

Confidentially,

Baby Z