TURNING A BLIND EYE TO CHEATING

ZC NATION.

What it is.

What it do?

I miss youuuu!!!

Although you are reading this on a Monday it is currently Sunday night as I type this & I just ordered crawfish fried rice with veggie egg rolls & a strawberry smoothie.

I really didn’t need to.

But it was soooo good & it was just the vibe.

That Sunday night, everything is complete, I'm super relaxed going into the new week, it's still the weekend let me treat myself vibe.

You know?

You know the vibes.

I ate everything right up.

& I just thought I’d share that with you.

😅

There’s something a little different about this blog.

You may or may not have noticed that this is the first ZC audio blog.

Yes that’s right…

You can choose to listen to everything that’s being said here in writing rather than read if you prefer that.

Or both.

Whatever floats your boat or finds your lost remote.

It’s been such a long time coming.

I wanted to test it out the other day after finally getting word on how to do it from the blog team.

& it worked.

So now it’s here.

In addition to audio blogs I’ve joined Spotify for podcasters.

I have recently gained my podcasting mojo back & am ready to reopen that chapter & see how it goes.

It’ll definitely help me out with becoming more fluid as a presenter.

Plus it’s another way for me to connect with you.

I would love my audio blogs to be on Spotify too but I’m not entirely sure how I would integrate the two or if it would even make sense.

This audio is brought to you by SoundCloud which is the platform this site allows me to link straight here.

Maybe I’ll keep the ZC podcasts on Spotify & the audio blogs here via SoundCloud.

Yup that’s what I’ll do.

Wow.. sorting that out right here in real time was nice.

🤭

Anyway let’s get into today’s topic.

Love is Blind

Not sure how many of you tuned in to watch the most recent season of Love is Blind S6 but I diddddd.

It was giving dramaaaaaaaaaaa 🎭

Although I enjoyed the drama & it kept me locked in I don’t necessarily think it was necessary for a show like LIB.

The first season was iconic because it was the beginning of the social experiment & there wasn’t an overload of ppl just there for screen time.

It was real.

So the love carried!!!

Additionally it was new to us (can’t forget that point).

But since its inception it seems the show has become over saturated with cast members who have a deep awareness that they do not HAVE to get married thus can simply use the show to get further ahead publicly & make a small name for themselves.

As much as I have to say on this topic, let me not digress for now.

The concept of the show is to get engaged to each other before ever having seen one another.

On THIS season of LIB there were two cast members who fell in love with each other in the pods, went through an extensive amount of red flags/ups & downs before ultimately choosing not to get married.

Clay & AD.

Clay the man in the relationship told AD (the woman) multiple times that one of his deepest fears with getting married was his fear of cheating on her.

Especially bc he consistently witnessed his own father cheat on his mother.

His father even so much as took him on these ‘infidelity field trips’ which left him funny & confused about remaining faithful in a marriage.

This storyline was a huge storyline for S6 of LIB.

Seeing as Clay’s mother (who was a lovely representation of strength & intelligence) was married to his father for 23 long years whilst simultaneously enduring his unfaithful ways.

Which Clay happened to reveal in depth through the entirety of the show.

Things his mother didn’t even know about until the show.

This made for a lot of indirect criticism towards his mother due to the fact that both she & Clay seemed proud of the 23 years of marriage shared between she & his father.

People thought…

“Well exactly how proud should you be of a marriage in which you endured 23 years (give or take) of infidelity?”

I’ve always heard & agreed with the statement…

“It’s not the length of a relationship that determines the success but rather the love, happiness & amount of respect in it”

So I agree with the peoples thoughts.

However it did bring me to pose the question of…

Long Term Marriages

For the longest time many of us have admired the marriages able to withstand the test of time.

For numerous reasons really…

But most obviously bc it symbolizes two people who have committed to a life long journey with one another.

It says to us…

These are two people who have honoured their vows under God & to each other.

It’s inspiring right?

Especially in a day & age where divorce has become so common.

But the older I get the more I start to wonder…

Do long term marriages only exist bc someone in the relationship chose to turn a blind eye to infidelity?

Let me preface by saying ‘not all’.

Not all long term marriages have endured infidelity.

However you do tend to hear a lot from marriages that have stood the test of time that one of the secrets to their longevity has been forgiveness.

& that forgiveness encompasses all things including infidelity.

Don’t shoot me.

Don’t shoot the messenger.

I’ve heard it time & time again.

So I ask you ZC…

Is one of the main reasons marriages last an ‘admirable’ amount of time due to a partner or both partners choosing to turn a blind eye to the possibility that their partner has been unfaithful?

Is all hope lost when it comes to monogamy & long term marriages?

Let me know your thoughts in the comments.

I’m desperate to know.

On a positive note...

There are so many other secrets to a long marriage.

I got to read some heartwarming things in this article linked through this picture below.

One thing that made me laugh is the husband in this pic says the secret is to not argue.

Whenever his wife argues he chooses not to argue back bc it takes two to argue.

& by the time you know it it's all over.

I feel we're not being taught these tips in relationships.

Even if we are being taught ie via articles like the one above we are choosing not to listen.

I know a lot of men these days that would simply not agree to not arguing.

My mum has always said the best men in marriages know when to leave an argument alone.

Women are inherently over thinkers who tend to pick at things in excess at times.

Men typically do not.

So when a man argues just like a woman we're already at a loss.

It just seems men would like to argue just like the women in fear that they are being emasculated if not when in all actuality it's rather the opposite.

But what do I know?

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High Vibrational Share (HVS)

I also wanted introduce HVS to this blog space by sharing what I’ve been watching when it comes to the high vibrational info that comes into my life.

Lately it's been a lot of pastor Steven Furtick.

They’ve been giving me a lot of courage.

I watched one 5 years old where he brought Bishop T.D Jake’s on & it was just so inspirational I couldn’t imagine not sharing it with you lot.

So if you’re interested & need a little bit of courage or to be fed properly then tune it.

I’ve linked it below.

Tap to watch.

It’s quite long this one. so it’s nice to have on as ‘background noise’

I know I am constantly taking in things that do not serve me or my progression so I would like to begin sharing the most inspiring sermons, pods, (audio) books etc that come my way.

This is day 1 of that.

Hope it serves you 🖤