LONG DISTANCE - CAN/WILL/SHOULD IT WORK?

Helloooooo my babes.

Another Monday with ZC NATION!

I hope you’re all doing not just well but stupendous.

Phenomenal.

& moving above your contemporaries 🖤

It’s great to have you here.

It always is.

Before we begin…

Can we just talk really quickly about how ZC NATION was mentioned in not just ONE but THREE well accomplished magazines this past week?

GLAMOUR.

WONDERLAND.

&

RETREAT.

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I was quite floored when I was asked to interview with them & they all brought up the force & the power that is ZC NATION.

Your loyalty to this community is making waves & I couldn’t be more humbled & proud.

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So I just want to say…

THANK YOU!

Thank you for being who you are.

Thank you for your unwavering support.

For your kind hearts & Godliness despite whatever you may be going through.

Bc I know we’re ALL going through things.

But you still choose to show up here every Monday & help me/each other navigate this very interesting spiritual journey we call life.

You could’ve been anywhere else in the world right now but you chose to be here with ZC & I appreciate you!

🖤🖤🖤

***Round of Applause for ZC NATION

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Now…

Long distance Relationships

Obviously we’re about to discuss physical distance in relationships.

It’s no secret that I’ve spent the last 5 weeks in London.

One of which weeks consisted of Timmy being here with me.

And oh what a glorious week it was.

This leaves 4 weeks I have spent without T.

Definitely a lot of time to be away from a partner.

But…

If I’m being honest with you guys, I’ve always spent this kind of time away from partners at least once or twice during the year.

In my line of work time spent apart has always been  very fair & in fact…

Expected.

Additionally being from a different country with close family in that country has always created space for time apart.

I know that on the show many fans & even supporters questioned whether T & I would be able to make this work when he was thought to still be living in NYC & me in LA.

So it’s natural that the concern has resurfaced with the amount of time I’ve spent in London.

But the truth is…

I am not concerned at all.

For many reasons.

But for starters…

I’ve never been addicted to men in my life more than I have GOD, my career or family.

& I can say the same for T!

He’s never been more addicted to women in his life more than God, his career or family.

I know that may sound scary to the relationship lovers out there.

But to me the only thing that has ever made relationships work is the trust, love, loyalty & commonality in core values the two partners share.

Which is there for the both of us.

This article written on Refinery 29 lists a plethora of long distance relationship stories that I found very interesting & enlightening to read about.

And I believe you will too.

Just click the pic above when you’re ready & it will take you there.

Despite this article & the statements I’ve made above…

I am not a fan of long distance relationships.

LOL.

I DO believe they can work but they are not what I prefer.

So Z how is it going to work for you & T then?

Great question 👍🏾

Well…

I hardly consider what T & I have a long distance relationship.

Majority of the year we will be together.

There will just be a month or two or at times even 3 when we are apart.

& I’m fully ok & happy with that.

Absence truly makes the heart grow fonder for me.

As long as there is ample communication, discussions about your day/true emotions & love shown in meaningful ways…

There’s no reason for me to have a problem with time apart.

As a matter of fact I wouldn’t be able to be in my line of work if I did have a problem with it.

For full clarification:

I DO need grips of time when I’m with my person during the year for the relationship to last for ME.

Not everyone needs it that way though.

We all have very different wants, needs & love languages 💕

The key is to find someone who feels the same as you & can cater to your love languages.

Because there’s no one size fits all monolithic approach to love or relationships.

How long will I be in London?

I will actually be spending my Christmas in London.

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& returning to LA early in the new year!

T will be with his family in NYC.

I didn’t originally plan to stay for Christmas (which would’ve been my first Christmas not in London).

I planned on meeting T’s family in NYC.

But after securing work here at the top of the year it made the most sense financially to complete the year with my family as I always have.

So I’m staying for work with the added bonus of getting to be with my family 🙏🏾

I will travel to NYC sometime next year.

There’s no immediate rush.

Pre Love Island I lived in London for a minimum of 3 months out of the year.

And I don’t plan on this changing.

Yes things change when you’re in a relationship but only if there’s a problem with the way that things are going.

If I begin to notice things going South or sour in my relationship from the few months of distance during the year then in the words of T…

“We can modify things”

☺️

Due to my relationship being public, my whereabouts & speculation of trouble in paradise come everyday that I’m not with T.

He couldn’t care LESS about public speculation.

But I’m honestly trying to adjust to it & not let it affect me.

If something is working personally & privately, public opinion shouldn’t matter.

I’ve learned from past islanders & friends in the industry how many of them felt their relationships were torn apart due to too much focus on what the public thought rather than what they KNEW it was.

I just don’t want that to be me.

I won’t let that be me.

Because whether T is who I will be with for the rest of my life or not, having a public relationship will always somewhat be my life from here on out so I might as well focus on making sure that public input is not the downfall of our relationship.

YOUR thoughts 💭

I’d love to know your opinions on long distance relationships.

Can they work?

For YOU but not for others?

For OTHERS but not for you?

Never?

To each is own?

Lmk!

Updates 🔝

I will be posting about this years Christmas giveaway basket for ZC Subscribers only on IG late this week!

There will be a small list of simple things to complete to enter the giveaway.

& though only one person will win the giveaway basket, I will also be selecting a few of you for a free service to hop on a zoom call with me.

I’m dying to chat to some of you.

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ZC Journals 📔

I'm working on a collaboration with North + Third.

So ZC Journals will be available in 2023 if the demand is there.

There will be a waitlist link available for you to put your name on before the end of this year.

I would like to have a headcount of how many would be interested in this so if you are... make sure to enlist yourself as the link becomes available.

Journaling my activity/thoughts & setting intent through writing has played the biggest role in my success & with my mental health.

I hope these ZC Journals will help you do the same.

Additionally…

If there are things you’d love in the journal please lmk!

Ie.

Guided Meditation 🧘‍♀️

Habit Tracker

Positive Reminders/Intentions 💭

“ZC Quotes”

Undated (So you can use any time of year)

Free space or lined paper or both 📝

We’re almost at the end of the year!!!

I pray you find things to be grateful for.

I love you ZC Fam!

Confidentially,

Baby Z