MEN ARE IN THEIR FLOP ERA 😬

as per VOGUE.

What up ZC NATION.

how goes it?

It’s an earlier drop today.

The way it should be.

Even though early for me on the West Coast is not as early as I think EVERYWHERE ELSE.

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Lol.

Hopefully you enjoyed last weeks pod &

blog with Garbi D.

If not go check it out & show some love in the comments for our girl.

YouTube.. Spotify… ZC’s IG.

😏

I appreciate those of you who do!

Remember how I was saying I was finding ways to revamp ZC?

Well…

It starts with this blog.

In the past I was so focused on my own stories which hey… got me through bc ppl wanted to know about me.

But now ppl know about me…

Feel they know about me enough.

I should say!

Do you also remember me saying that the reason I was seemingly a good writer (in the words of subscribers) or able to keep pushing out blogs back to back at a point in time was bc I knew the subject I was writing about very well…

MYSELF.

But now that the novelty has worn off…

I ask myself:

Who is Zeta the writer if not writing about herself?

Well…

Let’s find out.

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V O G U E

Tap to read VOGUE article 🩶

I’d be dishonest to say this recent article in Vogue didn’t awaken my spidey senses as a writer.

It really just comes down to the topics you want to talk about.

That you find interesting.

That you know a thing or two about.

Which…

such is life right?

If it isn’t making you happy or 💸

then it doesn’t 👏🏾

make 👏🏾

sense 👏🏾

Full Stop.

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I low key wanna “make fetch happen”

With full stop.

That’s how “period” is said in the UK.

But anyway…

VOGUE recently wrote an article stating that in today’s day & age having a boyfriend is embarrassing.

& that more and more modern women are opting to keep their BF’s hidden from the general public.

It’s no longer a “flex” if you will

to have a man.

says Chantè Joseph | writer at VOGUE

One lady interviewed, 38,

who had recently broken up with her boyfriend of 12 years stated that she never once posted him when together & that you could be in a relationship for 12 years and the man would still choose to embarrass you.

How unfortunate.

& correct she is.

But outside of the fact that they will embarrass you…

In my humble opinion

It just feels as if most heterosexual relationships benefit men more than women.

Have any of you read the statistics that state in so many words that single women are equivalently happy as married men?

tap photo to be taken to article 🩶

I think the phenomenon speaks for itself.

& though I’m certain there are many scientific reasons backed by study, in my own personal opinion… without a man women are granted much more free time to cater to their own emotions, wants & needs.

When I’m laying in bed with somebody (girl or guy) or somebody is over at my house, I cannot stop thinking about taking care of them.

It trickles into my sleep.

😴

It is natural. It’s instinct.

For me,

at least.

& I believe that is a big part of what happens with women in relationships as well.

Then to top it all off our efforts are said to simply be our duty!

No complaining.

You chose this life right?

Well…

Most women are now NOT choosing it & I think that’s wonderful.

So right on VOGUE.

Soooo stay single forever?

Well…

if you can.

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I kid, but more truthfully…

Stay single until you find someone worth giving up all those things for.

Or better yet stay single until you find someone who is categorically & emphatically dedicated to a true partnership with you.

Despite my agreement w this VOGUE article…

It is clearly heavily nuanced.

As a Christian myself I’ve grown up hearing & believing in Genesis 1:28

Whenever I mention being OK with being single to my mum, she hears me fully.

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But whenever I mention the fact that I want my first child before 40 she also says “yes, the Lord says be fruitful & multiply”.

Safe to say she’s a firm believer in procreating.

& she’s right.

Children are a blessing after all.

Despite your religious beliefs that is something that remains true.

Bc none of us would be here having this chat if we thought any differently.

Men & women need each other to procreate.

Love is real.

It’s the realest thing on planet Earth.

If you haven’t read the full article just yet I do not want to fail to mention that it’s said having a BF is

is more so frowned upon in this day & age IF one is repetitively posting said BF… not the act of simply having one.

The article goes on to chat about the concept of evil eye from others & so much more being part of the reason why women are opting out of sharing their partners.

Which I agree with.

So…

Whilst I do concur with VOGUE that having a boyfriend is embarassing.

Having a man who respects your personal destiny to build, procreate & grow old with is not.

& if you find that hang on tight.

Cherish it.

BUT…

Don’t ever let a man become your WHOLE identity.

A fruitful life outside of parading a man as your sole accomplishment should always and has always been THE REAL FLEX!

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PS: the gag is WE (men & women alike) worship one another even more that way 😉

When we are just as focused on the other aspects of life that bring us joy outside of our partner.

That’s all I got.

& I love you millions, of course.

Confidentially,

Baby Z