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- Z E T A
- Nov 3
- 4 min read
Updated: Nov 5
as per VOGUE.
What up ZC NATION.
how goes it?
Itās an earlier drop today.
The way it should be.
Even though early for me on the West Coast is not as early as I think EVERYWHERE ELSE.
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Lol.
Hopefully you enjoyed last weeks pod &
blog with Garbi D.
If not go check it out & show some love in the comments for our girl.
YouTube.. Spotifyā¦ ZCās IG.
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I appreciate those of you who do!
Remember how I was saying I was finding ways to revamp ZC?
Wellā¦
It starts with this blog.
In the past I was so focused on my own stories which heyā¦ got me through bc ppl wanted to know about me.
But now ppl know about meā¦
Feel they know about me enough.
I should say!
Do you also remember me saying that the reason I was seemingly a good writer (in the words of subscribers) or able to keep pushing out blogs back to back at a point in time was bc I knew the subject I was writing about very wellā¦
MYSELF.
But now that the novelty has worn offā¦
I ask myself:
Who is Zeta the writer if not writing about herself?
Wellā¦
Letās find out.
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V O G U E
Iād be dishonest to say this recent article in Vogue didnāt awaken my spidey senses as a writer.
It really just comes down to the topics you want to talk about.
That you find interesting.
That you know a thing or two about.
Whichā¦
such is life right?
If it isnāt making you happy or šø
then it doesnāt šš¾
make šš¾
sense šš¾
Full Stop.
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I low key wanna āmake fetch happenā
With full stop.
Thatās how āperiodā is said in the UK.
But anywayā¦
VOGUE recently wrote an article stating that in todayās day & age having a boyfriend is embarrassing.
& that more and more modern women are opting to keep their BFās hidden from the general public.
Itās no longer a āflexā if you will
to have a man.
says ChantĆØ Joseph | writer at VOGUE
One lady interviewed, 38,
who had recently broken up with her boyfriend of 12 years stated that she never once posted him when together & that you could be in a relationship for 12 years and the man would still choose to embarrass you.
How unfortunate.
& correct she is.
But outside of the fact that they will embarrass youā¦
In my humble opinion
It just feels as if most heterosexual relationships benefit men more than women.
Have any of you read the statistics that state in so many words that single women are equivalently happy as married men?
I think the phenomenon speaks for itself.
& though Iām certain there are many scientific reasons backed by study, in my own personal opinionā¦ without a man women are granted much more free time to cater to their own emotions, wants & needs.
When Iām laying in bed with somebody (girl or guy) or somebody is over at my house, I cannot stop thinking about taking care of them.
It trickles into my sleep.
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It is natural. Itās instinct.
For me,
at least.
& I believe that is a big part of what happens with women in relationships as well.
Then to top it all off our efforts are said to simply be our duty!
No complaining.
You chose this life right?
Wellā¦
Most women are now NOT choosing it & I think thatās wonderful.
So right on VOGUE.
Soooo stay single forever?
Wellā¦
if you can.
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I kid, but more truthfullyā¦
Stay single until you find someone worth giving up all those things for.
Or better yet stay single until you find someone who is categorically & emphatically dedicated to a true partnership with you.
Despite my agreement w this VOGUE articleā¦
It is clearly heavily nuanced.
As a Christian myself Iāve grown up hearing & believing in Genesis 1:28
Whenever I mention being OK with being single to my mum, she hears me fully.
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But whenever I mention the fact that I want my first child before 40 she also says āyes, the Lord says be fruitful & multiplyā.
Safe to say sheās a firm believer in procreating.
& sheās right.
Children are a blessing after all.
Despite your religious beliefs that is something that remains true.
Bc none of us would be here having this chat if we thought any differently.
Men & women need each other to procreate.
Love is real.
Itās the realest thing on planet Earth.
If you havenāt read the full article just yet I do not want to fail to mention that itās said having a BF is
is more so frowned upon in this day & age IF one is repetitively posting said BFā¦ not the act of simply having one.
The article goes on to chat about the concept of evil eye from others & so much more being part of the reason why women are opting out of sharing their partners.
Which I agree with.
Soā¦
Whilst I do concur with VOGUE that having a boyfriend is embarassing.
Having a man who respects your personal destiny to build, procreate & grow old with is not.
& if you find that hang on tight.
Cherish it.
BUTā¦
Donāt ever let a man become your WHOLE identity.
A fruitful life outside of parading a man as your sole accomplishment should always and has always been THE REAL FLEX!
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PS: the gag is WE (men & women alike) worship one another even more that way š
When we are just as focused on the other aspects of life that bring us joy outside of our partner.
Thatās all I got.
& I love you millions, of course.
Confidentially,
Baby Z
Another great blog! And I love this discussion bc I personally donāt like to post and prefer to keep my relationship private. Also, I do agree that having a boyfriend is embarrassing bc theyāre just that a boy who is a friend. Now a man is someone who is willing to make a commitment to you only. And I agree with you Zeta when you said that donāt make a man become your identity bc you will lose yourself in the process and no man is worth that imo, not even your husband, lol
I have been single mom for many years. I raised a son who is 30, and I have 2 teenaged kids. I follow you because of your grace, style snd the absolute love that you give to us your followers. My mindset is different than most. I dont want to post my man, if I have one. I want to experience stuff with my man, when I have one. Yes, pictures are great, of me, of my kids, of memes that I like, of my friends, of the nature pictures that I take, but my life is not lived in the public eye. Why would I post my relationship there? In my humble opinion, I am happier alone. (I haveā¦