BEING SHORT IN AN AVERAGE WORLD

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well hey there

Happy Monday+

Yes that’s what we’re calling Tuesday releases when Z is too swamped to get her shit together on Monday.

I haven’t been on socials much this 2026

bc it’s feeling so good to stay focused on the things I have set out for myself instead of getting distracted.

One thing I noticed in 2025 is that I have to stay off consuming other people’s content during what are meant to be work hours for me if I want to be a successful content creator.

You’re either creating content or you’re watching it.

Not saying one can’t do both bc trust me I will be doing both LOL

but I’ve got to switch up the amount of time I spend doing each one.

Regardless,

I’m sure the title of this blog confused you.

Being Short in an Average World

What’s that supposed to mean?

& why am I discussing it?

Well…

I felt the confusing title was more fitting bc we all know I’m a tall girlie.

Therefore I can’t speak much on shorter women’s issues.

so I won’t.

However,

I’m gonna speak about my tall girl (5’10” here 👋🏾) sentiments & hope that you guys will oblige me with your perspectives and how you’ve felt moving through life with the height cards you’ve been dealt

TikTok

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I was recently on TikTok and saw a comical video come across my FYP page of a tall woman having to “ fix her crown” after a short girl called her huge.

& the comment section was filled with tall women feeling seen & heard.

BUT

You know that it couldn’t end there.

LMAO

ofc there were arguments between the tall and the short women but one particular exchange taught me the most.

A woman msg’d saying,

Using the word “huge” to describe someone is insanely disrespectful

To which a shorter woman responded saying

“From down here yes they are”

& the thread of comments continued for what felt like a mile thereafter.

Name calling & insults galore.

Hopefully you know by now that you can click on the picture above which will take you directly to the TikTok itself so that you can also see & read for yourself.

Now…

I had a laugh reading through them.

But that’s because I am a little more secure in my height as I get older.

& to keep it a buck 💸

I also wasn’t in the ‘Ring of Fire’ in that moment so being an outsider reading in helps you take a comfy seat to just enjoy the perspectives & banter if you will.

bc if the disrespect happened to my face I’d certainly pop off.

🙃

The shorter woman’s statement:

“From down here yes they are [huge]”

is the exact kind of statement that I knew someone would make to use as a means of explaining the disrespect.

W/ ignorance.

I say w/ ignorance bc…

Re-explaining why you say something after people have just told you it is disrespectful doesn’t solve the issue.

But as a means to move forward the offended, aka the tall woman can make an attempt to educate said short person in a way that hopefully makes the offender fully understand why their statement may be disrespectful.

After an explanation is given however & the offender continues to double down or make mockery of/choose to be willfully obtuse…

Well then it becomes obvious that they never meant to explain their position in order to learn but rather to find reason to continue with their disrespect because it makes them feel better about themselves.

Either way…

I’m always happy when the conversation presents itself because some people simply don’t know and others are obviously malicious in their intent.

I’ll tell you right now,

the word HUGE as a describing word

immediately comes across as an insult to any woman because femininity has always been related to smallness.

I think everybody knows this.

That’s why statements like “he can pick me up & throw me around” come from.

Meaning to experience such women must be dainty.

Correct me if I’m wrong.

There are men who have supposedly hit the lotto when it comes to height standing at 6’7”+ who have said that they feel huge or a gigantic in comparison to the average human & that it hasn’t always felt the best.

or that feeling a sense of normalcy for once in their life when around people their own height can be extremely comforting.

Those who lie on the outliers of any spectrum have to deal with a wide array of emotions, incapabilities and unique obstacles in relation to the average person, always.

So this includes short people.

But the perspective I am well versed & eligible to provide insight into is for the tall people.

As a tall person…

🧍🏾‍♀️

you can’t buy the same pair of $40 flat rate trousers everyone buys, gotta get it customized.

can’t just tailor it to fit you by cutting some of the trouser off bc there’s not enough garment to even do so, they’re high waters on you.

can’t fit in an economy plane seat remotely comfortably.

can’t just blend in anywhere… bc you’re born to stand out.

(against your will, might I add)

This may sound nice in theory & it can be but things tend to lose their fun when you don’t have the option.

It’s not always the easiest situation to handle.

So to then be reminded and told that you fall as an outlier with less favourable describing words as if you don’t already know or live with that DAILY can be unnerving.

I guess if it has never been your experience then using words like huge & gigantic to describe outliers may seem like an obvious choice of words

Perhaps outliers tend to understand the importance of verbiage and not singling others out a little more than the average person does since they know what it feels like therefore are more sensitive about making others feel as such.

BUT

then again, I don’t think so.

To me that is simply an excuse for average height ppl and not something to be proud of.

Dare I even say,

A character flaw?

UNLESS ofc…

There is jealousy? attached to the insult.

I typically find that when someone is to point out another persons uniqueness in a less favourable way:

Though we will all say we know this…

all it ever comes down to is insecurity.

Insecurity

it comes down to insecurity.

Because I have been around quite a few short people who will address my height with the biggest compliment.

As in…

“omgggg legs for dayssss… I wish I had your legs”

OR

“I wish I knew what life was like up there”

OR

“What a stallion”

We all know stallions are regal.

You know?

So there are ways.

I often find that people who address others height with a compliment or self deprecating joke towards themselves typically have confidence in who they are.

Being able to recognize the beauty in something you don’t have and pay it respect is confidence

“HUGE & GIANT”

are…

well, a choice.

A lazy one at that.

It communicates:

“there’s no other pleasant way of describing you”

A shorter/average person may feel like tallness isn’t their cup of tea, sure.

But wouldn’t it be easier to use the describing word tall?

“Wow you’re so tall”

Me personally I’d add a compliment or a further statement that broadens why it amazed me enough to make commentary on it.

“Wow you’re so tall, I haven’t been around someone your height in a while so it feels interesting bc now I understand relativity when it comes to height”

For instance when someone much shorter than me is around me IF I feel the need to say something so badly,

🙄

which isn’t often…

I say things like “omggg your height is so cute”

& if they take it in a way that shows me they’re insecure about it I go a step further by listing things that being short comes in handy for

but if that’s not the way you groove (ie. adding a compliment or further explaining your sentiment) then sure… a simple “you’re so tall” will suffice.

Though I have to admit I still find that aggy

bc saying “you’re so short” or “you’re so average”

automatically has a bite back to it.

IMO.

Pop The Balloon

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A famous YouTube series in which young/older singles alike lineup for a chance to go on a date with the person they match with after lengthy questionnaires tends to pose a perfect example of the hierarchy or belittling we assign to people based on their height.

It’s no secret here that typically speaking men are praised for being tall and women aren’t.

Obviously we have models & tall women are praised when strutting down a Victoria’s Secret runway but outside of that being a tall woman is a source for bullying, being masculinized and belittled as ironic as that sounds.

But on pop the balloon I see time and time again women calling men too short for their liking.

Which is fine in theory if their preference is to have a taller man.

As is mine.

But you won’t catch me calling a man short and using it against him (unless he’s out right rude to me about my appearance) because one thing I can’t stand is calling out the obvious in people as a way to demean them for that which they cannot change.

It takes a lot of courage to be a tall woman in a world where petite ness is praised in every regard.

So to my tall girlies, keep your pride alive.

I’m curious to know however if shorter men appreciate the term short king 👑

when it comes to describing them.

This all brings me to the questions ZC Nation…

👇🏾

do people know what they’re doing when they call a tall woman huge or gigantic?

do shorter/average woman at times crave height?

how tall are you?

how do you feel about your height?

(insecure? happy? proud? indifferent?)

what has been your experience moving through life with your height?

& how do you address tall ppl if you’re short/average? / short ppl if you’re tall/average

Anyway…

Always be proud of the cards you’ve been dealt no matter what.

Remember you are fearfully & wonderfully made.

& i’ll leave you with this quote when it matters most.

Father,

As always I love you millions.

& i’ll catch you next week!

Confidentially,

Baby Z